The Bible speaks a lot about the wise woman and the foolish woman. Would you like to check yourself to see how you are faring? I constantly need to do this myself.
CHECK NO. 1
Prov. 14:1 says the wise woman builds her home, but the foolish tears it down by her own efforts. Stable homes, where God’s love and peace reign, do not automatically happen. They are built by wise women – women who are prepared to work hard to make their home a habitation for God and for their family. They know it is their highest calling.
The wise woman knows that she is the heart of her home. When the heart stops beating, the person dies. When the mother’s heart stops beating in her home, that home begins to fall apart.
This woman knows that it takes more than the feeling of love to build a marriage. It is commitment to a covenant, irrespective of change or circumstances. She knows that is takes more than giving birth to a child to raise a godly seed.
She recognizes that her power and influence as a builder will not only affect her family, but the nation. The children that come forth from her home will affect many lives, for good of bad. But her vision is greater than the now. She knows she is building into the generations to come, so she is careful how she builds. Her influence is far reaching.
CHECK NO. 2
The Hebrew word for building our home is ‘banah’. Not only does it mean ‘to build up an to repair’ but also ‘to bring about increase in offspring.’ The wise woman knows that having children is part of building a home that will affect the destiny of her nation.
The wise woman does not reject her divine mandate to bring forth children for God’s eternal kingdom. She is aware that the power of her mothering will continue into the eons of eternity. Children are not burdens, but eternal souls who will live forever.
The foolish woman is not concerned with God’s plan, but rather her won plans. She would rather fulfill her own career, which will most probably be burnt up one day when our works are tried by fire at the Judgment Seat. She doesn’t want to get her hands dirty, changing babies’ nappies and doing mundane home tasks. She is not aware that she is exchanging an eternal career for a passing earthly one.
CHECK NO. 3
A wise woman is a hard worker. Prov. 31:17.27 says, “She is energetic, a hard worker … she works far into the night! She sews for the poor, and generously gives to the needy. She has no fear of winter for her household, for she has made warm clothes for all of them. She also upholsters with finest tapestry; her own clothing is beautifully made… She watches carefully all that goes on throughout her household, and is never lazy.”
She is not afraid of housework and the commitment of mothering. She knows that the Bible tells her to be as ‘worker at home”. (Titus 2:2-4). She opens her home in hospitality and ministers to those in need. Read Acts 9:36-42 and 1 Timothy 5:10. If she has extra time, she uses her talents to make commodities which she can sell to help with family finances. She never wastes time sitting around watching a ‘soap’ on TV.
CHECK NO. 4
A wise woman knows that God has put the responsibility of teaching the children into the hands of parents. She will make sure that the person who teaches her children is not influencing them against God’s principles and truth. If this is happening, she will do something about it. If she cannot find a trustworthy school or teacher, she may have to think about educating them at home. It is interesting that Deut. 6:6-9 is in the context of the home, rather than the school. “And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.”
The wise woman is aware of what is happening in the public school system. The American Humanist 1983 states, “The battle for humankind’s future must be waged and won in the public school classroom by teachers who currently perceive their role as the proselytizers of a new faith: a religion of humanity … to convey humanist values in whatever subject they teach, regardless of the educational level – pre school, daycare, or large state university. The classroom must and will become an arena of conflict between the old and new – the rotting corpse of Christianity … and the new faith of humanism.”
The foolish mother is too busy doing her own thing to notice that her children are being subtlety brainwashed with humanistic values. She prays in the morning that God will bless them and then sends them off to be taught by those who scoff at the things of God. But Psalm 1 says that our children will only be blessed when they DO NOT sit in the seat of the scoffers!
CHECK NO. 5
A wise woman is rooted in her home whereas the feet of the foolish woman never stay at home. Because she hasn’t got a vision for her home and doesn’t understand God’s purposes, she finds home boring. Read Psalm 127:3; Prov. 7:11; 1 Tim. 5:11-15.
It is interesting that God calls the wife and mother a ‘vine’, planted within her home. A vine can extend its branches out over the wall. A mother can also touch many lives outside her home, especially as she reaches out to those who are in need, but she knows there her roots are. She keeps her roots strongly imbedded in the vision of her home. Her home is an exciting hub where everything is happening.
CHECK NO. 6
The wise woman has a meek and quiet spirit. Today’s woman is encouraged to stand up for her rights and assert her demands. This not the spirit of Christ in whose steps we are to follow.
· The wise woman understands the spirit of Christ is the spirit of meekness. (Matth. 11:28-30; Phil. 2:3’ Col. 3:12,13; 1 Peter 3:1-6).
· The wise woman realizes the spirit of Christ is the spirit of serving her family and others before herself. (Matth. 20:26-28; Phil. 2:5-8)
· The wise woman acknowledges the spirit of Christ is the spirit of total yielding to the will of God. (Ps 40:8; Matth. 26:36-42).
· The wise woman will turn away wrath with a soft word. (Prov. 15:1)
· The wise woman is ‘easy to be entreated’. This is one of the seven pillars with which the wise woman build her home. (Prov. 9:1; 23:3; James 3:13-18)
· The wise woman has a humble spirit. She is aware that “unobtrusive humility is the proper attitude of true wisdom. (Is. 66:2; James 4:5-6; 1 Peter 5:5-6).
But the foolish woman is loud and defiant. She is also noisy. Prov. 7:11; 9:13. Job’s wife found it hard to yield to the sovereignty of God in the suffering and she complained bitterly. Job chides her and says, “you talk as one of the foolish women would talk.” Job 2:10.
CHECK NO. 7
A wise woman will endeavour to walk in God’s ways, not her own ways. She is aware of the voices of deception all around her and seeks diligently after God’s truth. She searches out to see if that which se believes is based in the Word of God, rather that the humanistic philosophies of this age. This is vital, not only for herself, but for her children. Shy must know truth, if she is going to teach her children in God’s truth.
The woman of wisdom uses her understand, but she does not lean on it. Just as a reed is useful to weave a basket, but is not strong enough to lean upon, so our own understanding can lead us astray. If we lean on it, we will lean to what benefits us, to selfishness, or to the easy way out. (Is 53:6; Prov. 3:5-8; 28:25-26).
It is only God’s truth that will stand the test of time. When God comes to judge the world, He will judge us with HIS TRUTH, not according to the man-made thought patterns of this world. (Ps 96:13). The foolish woman allows herself to be caught up in this world’s system.
There are more ‘checks’, but seven is a good number, and I don’t think we could handel any more at present, do you? May God help us all to be wise women, who will build strong homes in our nation.